We have the Ghost Whisperer, Dog Whisperer, Cat Whisperer, Horse Whisperer, but have we thought about being the Mother of all whisperers? I know this sounds funny but it is the most basic life skill set we all must strive to possess. And we believe that as people, we know how to do this?
The number ONE challenge that almost all of my clients have How to remove Raccoons from Attic is to be able to communicate effectively. When it is with their family, loved ones, colleagues, clients or subordinates, this is ONE BIG CHALLENGE.
Over the course of the last two to three weeks, it made me realise that most of the work I have been doing is really about teaching people how to communicate effectively. It’s not about speaking well or having good diction. It’s all about communicating with each individual or group in such a way that they get what I am saying. At times, I am required to be tough/stern, others times I am needed to be soft and loving, and other times, it’s essential to be humorous. TIMING to do what and when is really the key.
Some of the key challenges that most people face include:
Communicating with self? Can there be effective self talk that one has clarity in the direction they are heading?
Communicating with others – Are your needs understood? Are you being heard?
Is using voice better than signature? Or vice versa?
How to communicate effectively with a crowd so you’re rallying them towards something positive
does being a pioneer automatically make you an effective communicator?
If our communication skills are effective, then we will surely have less of a challenge in our relationship with others. It’s a basic skill that we must have. However, it is also one of the most challenging to learn, and a skillset that is challenging to impart.
To effectively learn this ability, attending a workshop for the masses on tactics, techniques etc is not sufficient. Simply because we are all different. One must learn to adapt these skills to different life situations and with various men and women.
I have discovered that certain communication skills I’ve coached one customer on, will not work on another as effectively. As the facilitator, I am required to accommodate to each of the requirements of my customers. Now, keep in mind that as a coach, it’s crucial for me to have this skill set. But the fact isthat everybody should have these skill sets also. We need one another, that goes without saying, so our need for one another requires us to convey. If this ability is missing, not only are our own needs not being met, you will not have the ability to meet the needs of others as well, whether it is in an intimate relationship, social connection or work relationship.
I just googled “how to communicate your sexual needs to your partner”. And there are over 7 million results. This only goes to show that even the most basic human need is not being met. Couples are having real problems communicating their basic needs to their spouses. If that is a challenge, what about other needs?